Positively Speaking

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I’m a huge believer in speaking things, saying them out loud. Why is that? Well, for a couple of reasons.

1. A psychological connection happens when you say something out loud as opposed to saying it in your head

2. The Bible talks a lot about saying things out loud (confess with thy mouth, yada, yada).  There's got to be something to it. Even if you don't "believe," a lot of the tenets make sense.

I use this a lot with my kids. I tell them all the things I want them to believe about themselves. Since they started talking, at night when I put them to bed, I’d say the following:

I am a Soldier of God

One day, everyone will know my name (In a good way, of course)

I am the leader, (not the follower)

I am the victor (not the victim)

I am the owner of the business (not the employee)

Once I drilled it into them, I’d have them say it with me, or I’d say the first few words, and they'd  finish the sentences. The beautiful thing about this is that this has become their norm. This should be working subconsciously in their psyches. They will be their best always, and they may not know why until their older. But the seeds have been planted. The beautiful thing about this is that you can come up with whatever affirmations you want. Whatever you want to see them with, you can. And, it’s never too late. Start now. Create the awesome beings you want your children to be. Let’s face it, we mess so much up with our kids. We get some stuff wrong for sure. But lucky for them (and us) we get more right than wrong, and one day society will thank us. We have so much power over our kids. And for as much time as we spend yelling, we should spend much more time speaking positive things into them.  

Think about how many times we say, “Clean Your Room,”’or “Take a shower” Or “TV off.”’ Now think about how many times a night you can say and repeat those affirmations to them. Have a kid who’s just not getting it?  Tell him what you want to him to become.  “You are great at math!”  “You’re an incredible swimmer.”  Here are some things to think about as you craft affirmations for your children:

1. Be specific. Use words that speak directly to what you want seeded. Try “You’re a sharp thinker.” instead of “You’re smart.” 
2. Think of the end game. Where do you want them to end up, and craft a saying for that. “You will own that comic book business.” 
3. Say it over and over again. You can’t say it too much. Remember the “clean your room” thing?

We have so much power over our kids. We should use those for good, not evil. :). Set them up for success.  PRO TIP: Do the same for yourself.  Hope this helps. Follow me on the socials @michelletaylorwillis for more tips. And remember, you're awesome, but, if you don't believe it, no one else will!

Talk soon!